The Paradox of Success teaches readers how to sustain personal development over the long haul, through self-observation, deep learning, and regenerative retreats. It can help readers become long-distance winners.

Leaders in all fields suffer from the paradox of success: with heartbreaking frequency, they fed that the costs of their victories outweigh the rewards.Their accomplishments often invoke the envy and resentment of others.Their power often leads to arrogance, isolation, and stagnation.

The good news is that it doesn't have to be that way. Many leaders are learning to step back and rebalance their lives. John O'Neil, a well&nown consultant to business executives, draws on his fascinating studies of longdistance winners' psychological and business strategies to show the way out of this dilemma. In a lively and inviting style, The Paradox of Success teaches readers how to sustain personal development over the long haul, through self-observation, deep learning, and regenerative retreats. It can help readers become long-distance winners, and renew their lives and reinvigorate their organizations in the process.

Preface: Lighting the Dark Side of Excellence

1. Prisoners of the Office: The Paradox of Success

 The Dark Side of Mythic Success

 Facing the Cost of Success

 A New Mythology of Success

 The Long-Distance Winners' Sustainable Success

 Beyond the Locked Door

2. The Hidden Assets of the Shadow: Mining for Gold

 What Goes into the Shadow

 Meet the Shadow

 How Success Feeds the Dark Side

 The Flip Side of the Coin

 The Organizational Shadow

 Disowning the Shadow

 Gold in Dark Places

 The Ghost Trap

3. Money, Power, People, and Performance: The

 Rise of Hubris

 Power Needs

 Money Taboos

 Workplace Relationships

 Performance Addiction

 Hubris: When the Shadow Rules

 The Many Faces of Hubris

 Deflating Hubris Through Renewal

4. The Promise of Renewal: Begin by Stepping Back

 Change Strategies That Fail

 The Renewal Imperative

 Learning Curves: Behind the Renewal Imperative

 The Observation Point

 Taking Stock

 First Steps

5. Promoting Renewal: Getting Past the Fear

 of Letting Go

 Obstacles to Stepping Back

 Finding the Motivation to Change

 Letting Go: The Leap of Faith

 Lives of Deep Learning

 The Lubricants of Renewal

 The Need for Meaning

 Alternatives to Letting Go: Parallel Curves,

 Plateaus, and the Search for Deeper Mastery

6. Deeper into Renewal: The Retreat

 What Is a Retreat?

 The Shadow-Work of Retreat

 Where to Retreat

 The Many Forms of Retreat

 The "How" of Retreat: Practices and Pursuits

 Ten Questions You Might Ask During Retreat

7. Home Again: Staying Renewed in the Work World i

 Re-entry

 Maintenance Retreats: Making Time and Space

 for Renewal

 Cultivating Renewing Habits of Body and Mind

 Deep Learning Continued: Balancing Our

 Personalities

 Building Support for Renewal

 Revising Your Personal Mission Statement

8. The Long-Distance Leader and the Self-Renewing

 Organization

 Qualities of the Long-Distance Leader

 How Women Are Changing the Look of

 Leadership

 Qualities of the Self-Renewing Organization

 Toward a Self-Renewing Society

Index